The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

You’ll never know to whom I’m referring but I need someone to talk to right now, if not someone sitting across from me.

I’m upset and depressed.

I’ve mentioned before, that we have some interesting neighbors but do any of you live next to The Neighbors From Hell? When confronted with conflict with them have you asked yourself repeatedly, “have I somehow caused this or attracted this conflict into my life”?

I have been, but I also feel it is clear that we didn’t “start” this nor have we continued this.

Here’s the story.

About a month after purchasing and moving onto our land, our “nice” neighbors moved into town as they were elderly. They had a house and some acreage just over the hill above the lower part of the parcel that our shared driveway easement passes through. The lower property is not theirs, nor is the easement for their use.

The new neighbors then moved in and almost shot us right away when they shot over our property with a gun, ricocheting off of one of our trees. I hit the deck and yelled at them that there were people there.

Then they let their dogs lose and accused us of killing one. Of course we didn’t but we put up with them pooping on our property and chasing our cats without escalating as well as we could.

Last year, they decided to trespass across that section of land with their snowmobiles, riding up and down the hillsides and across the easement and tearing up the road. We complained second hand to the realtor who had just sold them the property rather than confront them face to face.

Whether or not that was the right thing to do; that’s what we did. They were given a warning not to trespass again, and, aside from hearing their twenty or so dogs barking twenty four seven, we’ve gone out of our way to have nothing to do with them. Until now.

We suspect a friend of theirs bought the upper parcel to the property that was divided into three and, to our best guess, their friend has invited them to use that lot upon which to ride their snowmobiles.

Here’s the problem. For the last two evenings, the non-owners of that property; our “interesting” neighbors, have brought it upon themselves to ride their snowmobiles from their house, through the upper property, and down through the shared easement (that we have plowed at our own expense all winter), and are circling back up to their property. Like a race track; through our property.

I think anyone in our shoes would be incensed so I left a second note in their (open) mailbox this afternoon telling them to stop.

Not fifteen minutes later after we’d returned home, we heard her yelling at the top of her lungs to stop messing with her mailbox. It was all I could do not to yell back to “stay off our f***ing property.

I know we are in the right and we are already planning on using law enforcement as the go-between from here on out now that we’ve notified them for a second time. My issue is that I feel like crap emotionally and we’re scared of them because we know they have guns.

I simply need someone to talk to. Would you feel the same had this happened to you? Their dogs have repeatedly gotten lose also and their pit bull charged me and my son on several occasions. We lost the phone videos we shot, unfortunately.

Have any of you been in this situation? Did it help to know you weren’t alone; just in need some moral support? We have a plan of action thought out and the evidence captured. It’s just the emotional stuff. I don’t like this personal second-guessing.

Thank you for listening.

Author: ldinlove

I am a 55 year old woman with one husband and one child living on raw land we bought in eastern Washington state. I am not normal. I am eccentric. Our whole family is, for that matter.

6 thoughts on “The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly”

  1. I’ve had problems with “bad” neighbors as well. I find that a good sturdy fence is one answer (this is what I did), no trespassing signs AND a camera or two
    With neighbors like you describe it’s always best to involve the authorities – it’s best that YOU start that paper trail.

    It’s sad that people don’t get along very often.

    1. Thank you Kenny. Just an ear is great. We’re having an attorney review the paperwork in case the owner of the upper lot is involved. It’s ballsy to ride your snowmobiles through your neighbor’s shared easement and property. Would a rational, thinking person do that? No. Thanks for the ear.

      1. It’s always best to ask if it’s okay to ride on sometimes property. What if there is an accident? Who is liable and what if they are the sue happy type?
        I live in the south so no worries about snowmobiles, but we do have many atv’s around. Like I said, sometimes a fence can work well.

        I’m sorry for your troubles, I do know what it’s like.

  2. J & D > We understand! Play it by the book. The easement will be legally defined as for access and egress – not for recreation! Stay calm and don’t do anything that gives them leverage over you. Do you know the saying that goes ‘Good fences means good neighbou’ ? Think of it metaphorically and literally. Besides, might the title deed for your property require the buyer (literally the first ever buyer) to erect and thereafter maintain stock-proof fencing. That’s standard in the UK, but here in the islands that has rarely been observed or enforced, with consequences similar to yours. Consider yourself hugged!

    1. I ran into your comment awaiting moderation, Garden and I apologize for not being on top of things! An amazing new addition to this story is that we found out the neighbors in question have defaulted on their mortgage and someone else has already taken possession of the property. Although I ultimately wish nothing negative on any person, my husband and I DID jump up and hug each other. The relief we’ve experienced is profound. A black cloud lifted.

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